The obstacles of pride and privacy
It’s not easy to lose abilities and admit you need help. The reluctant elder in your life is more likely to ease into acceptance if you listen respectfully and offer compassion and a commitment to working together. Today, we look at elders’ concerns around privacy and pride. Privacy. Having someone underfoot can feel intrusive, […]
The obstacles of cost and control
When a loved one obviously needs help at home but refuses to allow it, it’s frustrating! Below are two common concerns, with suggestions for ways to problem solve together. Cost is a very practical barrier. Many older adults feel particularly vulnerable where money is concerned. With a fixed income, they don’t want to spend! […]
Grief about pet loss
The death of a pet can be heart wrenching for anyone, and older adults are no exception. Especially for those living alone, pets serve as primary sources of companionship, comfort, and affection. They are often considered family members. This deep bond can make the loss of a pet feel as intense as losing a human […]
Minimizing the financial impact of caregiving
Is caring for a loved one beginning to feel like a wallop to your wallet? AARP estimates that family caregivers spend an average of $7,242 out-of-pocket each year. Your family member’s needs may also force you to reduce work hours or quit your job, affecting your present income and your savings for retirement. Here […]
Creating a dementia-friendly home
Imagine living in a home you’ve known for years but that suddenly feels unfamiliar and confusing. This is the reality for many people with cognitive impairment. If you care for someone with dementia, you may be wondering how to help them continue living at home as they decline. Start by creating an environment that supports […]
Creating a safe mail system
Junk mail creates an annoying and potentially dangerous situation for older adults, especially if they have dementia or mild cognitive impairment. It’s not just about clutter; important bills or tax notices can get overlooked, leading to missed payments or double payments. Worse, your relative might fall victim to a financial scam or be tempted to […]
Reducing the stress of procrastination
Many of us have the habit of procrastination. We stall rather than move forward decisively. Ultimately, of course, decisions are made and things get done. But we tend to heap on self-criticism about having put things off. All that self-criticism is in fact misguided. Research indicates that berating oneself actually seems to promote procrastination! […]
Five strategies for emotional health
Being a family caregiver has plenty of sweet moments, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t also emotionally challenging. It’s often stressful when you are searching for answers, wondering if you’re doing enough, and coping with the confusion of your changing relationship. Here are five strategies to help you stay grounded and calm while caring […]
Does standing up cause dizziness?
If standing up causes dizziness for your loved one, even simple movements such as getting up from the couch or table can be unpleasant. The problem may be orthostatic hypotension (OH), also called “postural hypotension,” which happens when blood pressure drops suddenly after standing up from sitting or lying down. The resulting dizziness increases the […]
“I don’t need help”
It’s a common refrain and the bane of many family members: Your loved one is having trouble, yet he or she refuses outside help. This can put your relative at risk. But if the worst happens and things go south, it also ends up making more work for you. Doubly frustrating when you know it […]