Listening when a loved one is sad
When we are sad, often the best medicine is to talk with someone. If you are the person listening, you may find it challenging to witness your loved one’s sadness as they struggle with the losses inherent to illness and aging. It’s natural to want to “fix” their emotional pain and make it go […]
Choosing a complementary medical practitioner
Is mom considering an herb-based remedy? If so, she joins 24% of American adults who report using herbal medicines, supplements, or teas. Fifteen percent turn to chiropractors, while 9% use acupuncture and 6% use homeopathy. You probably have heard individual success stories. But the risks and benefits of many alternative treatments have not been […]
Negotiating skills
Imagine your mom has fallen for the third time this year. To you, it’s obvious she needs more support, perhaps home care. Your sister thinks mom should come live with her in another state. Mom’s finances are slim and she doesn’t want to leave her home. Consider these tips from seasoned negotiators: Prepare ahead […]
Is it hearing loss or dementia?
Does the person you care for tend to forget things, such as appointments? Do they get easily confused? Are they withdrawing from social situations? These changes may be early signs of Alzheimer’s or some other dementia. But it’s equally possible that the problem is hearing loss. That is, it may not be a matter […]
“Tech support” scam
The multilayered “phantom hacker” or “tech support” scam is by far the most lucrative scam to date—$542 million was transferred to fraudsters between January and June 2023. Two-thirds of those victimized were persons over age sixty-five! Here is the typical scenario: Tech support. A call, email, or text is received “from tech support” at a […]
What is a hospitalist?
If your loved one gets admitted into the hospital, they may be disappointed that their primary care doctor is not the physician taking care of them. Instead, their care will be coordinated by a “hospitalist.” This is a doctor who specializes in caring for patients during a hospitalization. Like most specialists, hospitalists have had […]
Sadness isn’t all bad
Many aspects of aging involve sadness and loss: Loss of independence, a serious diagnosis, death of a partner, spouse, or friend. You as a family member may experience sadness as you witness your loved one’s struggles. But also, for your own caregiving-related losses, such as of leisure time with friends and family or opportunities at […]
When to use “urgent care”?
Where do you go? Your relative has distressing symptoms. The primary care doctor’s office is closed, or they don’t have an opening anytime soon. The Emergency Room is open 24/7 but will involve long waits and a lot of stress. An urgent care center is a great middle ground. It’s generally convenient—open evening hours—and […]
Ride hailing for older adults
Transportation problems create unhealthy social isolation for many older adults. Rides from family and friends are the first thought, but they aren’t always available, limiting your loved one’s opportunities. And older adults often feel uncomfortable being beholden to others for their transportation—and, ironically—for their “independence.” Ride services offer an alternative in many parts of […]
What is “vascular dementia”?
About 10% to 20% of cognitive impairments are a result of vascular dementia, also called “stroke dementia.” Vascular dementia arises when the blood supply to the brain is interrupted by a blood clot or from bleeding in the brain (for instance, after hitting one’s head during a fall). Vascular dementia can come on suddenly, […]